My daughter turned 19 yesterday, and unfortunatly I was not able to spend the day with her. Its the first birthday I have missed since she was born. I live 12 000km away from her and will probably miss out on many of the milestones that she will encounter over the next year. Learning to drive, getting a licence, finding a job, studying and all the ups and downs that go along with growing up. Although I wont be there for all those things, I have had the pleasure of being part of many many other milestones she has crossed through her life and had the pleasure of watching her grow from a spec on a scan into the most beautiful women.
This will be the only time in her life when she is exactly, half my age, which makes me think back to what I was doing at 19. This time 19 years ago I was bringing her home wrapped in a soft receiving blanket, and putting her into the white and pink cane cot that had been specially made for her. I was a young mother and had absolutely no idea of the events that would unfold over 19 years to get me to the point where I am today. So to celebrate the last 19 years of bringing up my daughter, I would like to put together a few things I learnt over the last 19 years as a guide to a young women going out into the world today, and hopefully these words of wisdom will see her through some serious times and save her from making some of the silly mistakes I have made in my life.
The most valuable lesson I learnt was from my mom, she was usually always right and looking back on it now, I should have taken her advice more!
That there are at least 3 sides to every story, and then there is the truth.
That no matter how much you trust or think you know someone, you might still get terribly dissapointed.
That no man should be put before a good friendship, because most the time, relationships with partners change, whereas good friends usually stay friends regardless.
That having money doesnt buy class.
That buying a house is not necessarily always the best investment in a relationship. It comes with loads of responsibility and requires a lot more money than you can ever plan for.
That when people love you, they will do whatever it takes to make sure your needs are met. They will not give you what you want, but what you need, and there is a huge difference between the two!
That money does not, fix money problems. If you cannot look after your money, no matter how much you earn, it will never be enough.
That anyone can seem like they have it all, its just a matter of telling the right story!
That having simple things was probably the most fun I ever had!
That people always remember the people who worked hardest!
That business carry's on whether you are there or not. Every job is replaceable.
That even in adulthood you still dont always know what you are meant to be doing, sometimes your purpose on this earth is just to live a life.
That having the best of everything is a never ending quest, because tomorrow something better is bound to come along.
That whoever loves the least in a relationship holds all the control.
And, That no matter how good or bad it is right now, its going to change!
And that is my advice in a nutshell......
I love you darling, I wish you everything you need.
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